elainefeseyagonyaunt@bellesprit.com. Only a location and first name is required or remain anonymous if preferred. Question: Dear Agony Aunt, I recently discovered that my husband of eighteen years has been unfaithful to me many times. After trying several attempted reconciliations we have finally separated. I feel so angry, lost and hurt. Do you have any guidance for me please? Thank you, Anonymous  UK. My dear friend, You have been very brave to suffer so much lack of respect. It must have all come as a terrible shock to you. In time, you will move ahead with your life and find sincere true love. Until then, this is a time to be at peace with yourself. None of these incidences were directly your fault. Don’t accept blame for things falling apart. We always have lessons to complete, and perhaps, this experience is all part of a bigger learning process. Your husband feels a long seated hurt from family rejection. To cover this hurt, he has been seeking attention from other women. Now that you are separated, he has time to allow the pain to flow. Then, he has the opportunity to heal and grow. In the future, you have a great love coming to you. This will be a reward for all of the years you have been patient and kind to your husband, despite his continually letting you down. You are full of love and grace. Be kind to yourself. Much love, Agony Aunt]]>