The Love Channel – Is It The Gift or The Love?


What’s more important, a holiday gift or quality love in your relationship?

Before you know it the holidays will be upon us; therefore, this month’s question is one question that callers asked me when I used to work the psychic lines:

Love ChannelWhat is my partner getting me for Christmas?

Honestly, I was always taken aback when this question was by a caller; consequently, it wasn’t always easy to keep my judgement out of the reading. Thank God, my guides would always quickly respond to this question. Here are some of their responses:

  • Surprise!
  • It’s a surprise and worth the wait.
  • None of your business.
  • Focus on the quality of the relationship instead.
  • You will love it.
  • It’s a really nice present.
  • Lastly, my guides wouldn’t respond.

To be truthful, I didn’t want to know, nor would I tell them on those rare occasions when I did get an answer of what their gift was. Why wouldn’t I tell them? Out of respect for their significant other, who deserves the right to see the expression of their loved one upon opening their gift, whether it’s joy or disappointment.

The guides are correct when they say to observe the assets of your partnership, instead of the material things. Okay, presents are nice, yet not as important as how your mate treats you all year round. There are some women who have rich men that give them many luxuries; however, treat them badly or are abusive to them. Those women may seem to have it made, yet in reality, they don’t have a quality relationship or life.

Rather than focus on what you’re going to receive, ponder the following:

  • What are you going to get your partner?
  • Could you plan a special outing for the holidays?
  • Do you need to put more effort into accepting his or her companionship, instead of material things you desire?
  • How giving is he/she of their time, assistance, or support?
  • Is her/his behavior towards you kind and loving all year round?
  • How is your attitude towards your mate?
  • Are you content in your relationship?

What is really important are not the presents, but the love you have for each other. For there is no price tag on a joyous love relationship! Remember the vows humans have been making for years; for richer or poorer… Besides, it’s the thought behind the gift that counts.

Some of you may be thinking, “Well, that’s easy to say, Pamela! How would you like it if your mate didn’t give you a gift for the holidays?” I’ve haven’t received much from him on Christmas or Hanukah because he doesn’t celebrate them. Usually, he’ll give me a yummy Godiva or other gourmet brand chocolate bar, which this chocolate lover always appreciates. Instead, we share a nice day together. When I look at our relationship throughout the year, how we celebrate our Libra birthdays, and the lovely companionship we have – a holiday present doesn’t seem so important to me.

I wish all my readers – Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!


Please send your love and relationship questions to Pamela Cummins is the author of Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships, Insights for Singles: Steps to Find Everlasting Love, the FREE eBook Pamela’s Love Collection, and Learn the Secret Language of Dreams. To learn more and get your free gifts, please visit 



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Pamela Cummins

Column: Love Channel | The High Priestess of Love, Pamela Cummins, can assist you in your love life, relationships, self-growth, and dream interpretation. She works with Angels and Guides and uses her psychic abilities of clairaudience, clairsentience, and clairvoyance to shine the light on your path. Her unique coaching and mentoring skills gives you the manifestation toolbox to achieve your goals. Pamela’s clients refer to her as the “Musical Psychic” because she often receives messages in the form of song lyrics. You can read her two monthly columns in Bellesprit Magazine and listen to her radio show “The Love Channel Show.” She is the author of Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships, Insights for Singles: Steps to Find Everlasting Love, and the free eBook Pamela’s Love Collection. Learn more at her website and follow her on Twitter at

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